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    It seems that quite often a child who has been settled in foster care for many years, becomes a teenager and wants to return to their family and begins to rebel against the decisions which have been made for them. This often leads to their placement disrupting. I wonder if anyone has experiences to share regarding this or tips of how a situation like this can be handled.


    This is my life at the moment!!! We had four long term foster children, the eldest two now 26 and 24 had not contact with birth family have gone on to do really well and very much still our daughters……the youngest two who are siblings had some contact and although sporadic and difficult was enough of a pull for the eldest to move on as soon as she reached 18 and although we see her it is difficult and her life style is now complex and unsettled. The youngest now 17 now seems to be going through the same stage, rejecting us, her fostered siblings and just waiting till she can move on. She has been with us for 9 years and its horrible. My only tip would be to back off a bit this is working for us at present, we are still there and present and available but letting her ‘do her own thing’ whilst still at home……one false move I fear will see her walking!!!

    Watching this with interest!



    This is a really common issue faced by foster carers. In non fostering households young people don’t often have the option of moving elsewhere when they fall out with parents and the family struggle through/survive the often difficult mid teen years. with some young people it may be worthwhile ensuring they feel a real part of decision making about their future and trying to encourage them to work with social workers around ‘leaving care’ issues. Foster carers are well advised to read up about young peoples entitlements under Leaving Care legislation as often the young people will be financially better off ‘staying put’ and we all know that money can be a big motivator at this age!!
    Having said all that.. its a tough balancing act and one where there is no easy answer… Hope other Foster Carers will be able to share their experiences on this one..
    Good luck Harriet!



    I’m a Foster Carer and I was caring for a teenager who absconded and then refused to return. I’ve been asked to attend a Disruption Meeting and I haven’t been to one before. Can anyone tell me what I can expect?



    Hi Sandra

    Each organisation has their own way of conducting Disruption Meetings. Usually everyone invited is asked for their views either before and/or at the meeting. The young person may be invited for at least part of the meeting if appropriate or asked for their views.

    The purpose of a Disruption Meeting is not to apportion blame but to look at the background of the child, the progress in placement and what led up to the disruption and if anything could have been done differently in order to come to a conclusion and make any recommendations to inform staff/carers/decision makers in the future and to bring closure for everyone involved.

    I hope this helps.


    Hi- the disruption meeting should be the professionals involved looking at the factors leading up to and surrounding the disruption – considering what went well and things which could have been done better. It is not about blaming anyone but exploring if anything could have been done eg more support, better communications etc, to avoid the disruption. Often these meetings are lengthy as they will give the opportunity for all involved to give their input.

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