Foster carer Debbie Douglas and her TOWIE star daughter Lydia Bright spoke openly about their experiences of being a foster family on the lunchtime show on Friday.
For over 23 years, Debbie has fostered 250 children as well as having four of her own children. She admitted, “I beat myself up because I thought “Oh my God, I’m helping all these children but am I damaging my own children?”
Lydia reassured her mum saying, ‘I think as mum started when I was so young – 13 months – for me, it’s always been very normal. ‘I was always used to new children coming and living and the chaos that comes with it. It was a mad mad house. I knew when I went to school we were different but in an amazing way.’
Other foster carers must have the same concerns as Debbie that by helping other children you worry that you maybe neglecting or damaging your own children. Debbie added: “I used to go to bed crying my eyes out. There’s many times you are absolutely exhausted.’
Even a fostering ambassador for the Department for Education finds fostering difficult and is upfront about how hard a job it is. Debbie and Lydia do not want to put people off fostering, far from it, they are encouraging it but think it’s important prospective foster carers go into it with their eyes wide open.
Debbie continued: “We just want to urge other people to consider it because these children need homes, need love and support and there’s lots of people out there who can help.”
To see Debbie and Lydia on Loose Women, click here.
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